Personal space
How big should your personal space be? I ask this question because I have somehow unconsciously placed an invisible barrier around me. Trust me this barrier is freakin big and anybody crossing that line will surely know that it made me really uncomfortable. I, myself, respect people's personal space and try to work around it. But now I have noticed that this barrier I placed on me maybe one reason why people think I am so not available. I am not and have never been a touchy feely person. I hardly give people even my own family an embrace when we see each other or when we go our separate ways. This have to change I understand that because I want to show people who are close to me that they mean a lot and every memory is treasured. Somehow I feel uncomfortable when people give me a peck on the chicks or even and embrace of appreciation. Is this because of my past? Is this my way of saying that I am emotionally damaged and have a hard time trusting again? I have no idea why I do that all I know that it makes me uncomfortable.
posted by JoobJoo @ Tuesday, November 07, 2006
5 Comments
5 Comments:
I dont know about your past dear but based on experience its not harmful to show your love and affection to someone you care by giving them a hug and a kiss. Especially with friends and family, coz it wont mean a thing beside the fact that its your way of giving back the love. It's right to keep maybe half of the barrier but keeping the whole, oh-oh...man that means your untouchable? well, I myself has benn practically doing it and so far I have never regret doing it. Just my two cents worth. *wink*
mel,
you are entitled to your personal space. I think it's just that you were never brought up to be the "touchy" and "expressive" type. I can't imagine your dad that way! ;)
the best really is to surround yourself with kids. They just bring out that sense of trust in a person!
hi meliza! duke is right, you are entitled to your own space. but i hope you won't make that space so big that even your loved ones can't approach you. who cares about other people? but for your family, i guess you have to make an extra effort there..
I just found your blog via Mentation of an Unsettled Woman. I have noticed that, as I get older, I am more conscious of my personal space as well. When I was in high school I was constantly hugging and kissing my friends, now I can barely hug someone without feeling "improper." So, I think it partly has to do with becoming more aware of other people's personal space too.
Thank you for dropping by superkimbo. Maybe that is true too that we dont want to appear forward and start offending people.
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